mistress

I’ve been dying to read Julie Yap-Daza’s book entitled “Etiquette for Mistresses”. I’ve been searching almost all National bookstore chains here in Cebu but seem to be running out of stock, I guess. My interest in getting hold of the book was made more intense when a friend of mine wrote an article in her blog about this book. So, what I did was to browse through the internet and just search for some excerpts of this book. Not that I am a mistress, but being a wife made me curious what are the etiquettes of these so-called “home-wrecker”.

While searching the web for related articles, I found these rules at someone else's blogsite.

Pretty interesting indeed…

Here are the rules:
Rule #1: Mistress is not Mrs. Know your place.
Rule #2: Even if he tells you he loves you more than his wife, don’t let that go to your head. As a rule, men are liars.
Rule #3: Mistresses should be ready to give up Valentine’s Day, Christmas Day, New Year’s Day, Holy Week and his birthday (that’s why mistresses are also called “holiday orphans" because of this).
Rule #4: Befriend his secretary but avoid all contact with his driver (Whether he is a company driver or the family driver, the chauffeur is not to be trusted. Family drivers owe their allegiance to whoever pays them their salary and who feeds them the free meals in the kitchen with the other help. In short, they are loyal to the Mrs. more than the Mr.).
Rule #5: As tempting as it seems, don’t patronize the wife’s beauty parlor, jewelry shop, dress shop, or father confessor.
Rule #6: Don’t call him, wait for him to call.
Rule #7: To be seen with him in public once is risky. The second time could be fatal to one of you. The third time is The End for both of you (love is lovelier when it’s forbidden. Because it’s forbidden, it’s supposed to be hidden).
Rule #8: Never believe, and never say anything unfriendly about his wife, not even after he recites a litany of her faults.
Rule #9: Mistresses are kept by rich men. But a mistress who is a woman of substance and independent means is better (Translation: Don’t ask him for money).
Rule #10: Be discreet (Make sure he is not the type to talk in the sleep).
Rule #11: Never travel together (Accidents will always happen. You can never tell).
Rule #12: When he breaks a date, charge it to fate, not his fecklessness (Men will be boys. They will forget to call. They will break a date at the last minute. They will stand you up. They won’t explain and they won’t ask for forgiveness. But don’t cry nor throw a tantrum. Don’t break down because a mistress is supposed to understand a man more than his wife does).
Rule #13: Wives have their own networks of spies and amigas. It is helpful for the mistress to have her own. A chaperone is not a good idea, however (Chaperones are passe. Besides, they talk).
Rule #14: Mistresses don’t complain (They shouldn’t. It’s the wives, according to the husbands, who are “always complaining).
Rule #15: Being No. 2, the mistress tries harder.
Rule #16: Send him home as soon as it becomes apparent that he’s overstaying.
Rule #17: It is practical for a mistress to be linked to another man, preferably her lover’s friend.
Rule #18: If he’s a public man and you’re thinking of staging an accident of running into him, think: How many accidents can I pull off in one month?
Rule #19: Don’t make unnecessary enemies of his children.
Rule #20: Remind him to pay for everything in cash – dinner, flowers, perfume, champagne, pearls, diamonds, a microwave oven, etc….
Rule #21: Don’t use tears as a weapon. He’s probably had enough of that from the Mrs. (Wives nag. Wives cry. If only for that reason, a mistress doesn’t use tears to get what she wants).
Rule #22: Resist the urge to be found.
Rule #23: Perish all thought that someday you’ll be No. 1.
Rule #24: Married men who keep mistresses don’t like surprises, as a rule.
Rule #25: A man with a mistress leads a double life, his mistress only a half life. Cheer up! A career will make you whole.
Rule #26: Resist the urge to shower him with gifts. Evidence, evidence….!
Rule #27: When in doubt, disappear.
Rule #28: When all else fails, leave him.

I fervently pray that in my marriage, there will never be "biatches" who will attempt to destroy my family --- I will definitely fight hell with them even if they religiously follow the above rules.